Solo moms are strong, hardworking, and resilient. And that’s just the beginning. So what does this mean? Below are three simple success habits of solo moms. Success habits are just that — habits that results in success. Success as you define it — in relationships with your kids, lifestyle, and status.
1. She is Resourceful
To accomplish the enourmous feat of raising children alone, you have to think on your feet. As a solo mom, you usually have to make decision on your own — life changing decisions — for both you and your kids. Solo moms do not use lack of resources as an excuse to not take action. Even when fear threatens to overwhelm you, you push through and, you overcome.
You persevere. This takes a lot of resourcefulness. You find ways to make things work. For example, you can make one meal stretch for two or three days, by adding inexpensive but healthy foods like beans, and shredded veggies.
You think outside the box. Even when people think you are crazy — and sometimes say it — at times to your face, but who cares. You get stuff done. Because it’s all about your children.
2. She Has the Courage to Believe and is Ever Grateful
Solo moms find strength in not only believing in a higher power, they also believe that that higher power — God, loves them and do provide for them. Without this trust, this unwavering faith, you would spend a lot of sleepless nights wondering why your kids are not home from work yet. Wondering if they are gonna get into an accident or some other imagine danger. Instead, you are grateful for the opportunity to influence their lives. You are thankful that despite the challenges, you are all okay — maybe better than okay.
Your faith gently rocks you to sleep. You kneel in prayer, asking God to take care of you and your child as he or she journey’s home from work or wherever, and then you silently fall asleep.
The solo mom success habit of belief that God is responsible for taking care of you and your, brings you peace of mind, that your job is protected and if it’s not there’s always another one. You are also confident that your family is safe and protected.
Belief forms the foundation of a successful life for the solo mom. Coupled with gratitude, faith allows you the precious gift of carrying your burden with your head held high. Not because it’s not hard, but because when the challenges come, even if you fall apart at first, you eventually calm down. You come to rest in faith, while seeking ways to address the issues — utilizing your resourcefulness.
3. She Practices Self Care
Losing weight can be especially difficult when we work full time because we are always very tired. Additionally, stress coupled with a sedentary lifestyle cause fat to accumulate around our bellies. Some moms successfully lose the extra weight soon after childbirth. For some of us, we carry the extra weight into our 50’s and beyond. However, the stress of single parenting can make losing weight much more difficult than normal.
Still, solo moms find innovative ways to eat food that increase their energy and build their immune systems. You find ways to slip healthy foods into your family’s diet. You shop when you can at the farmers market and may even utilize the convenience of membership in a Community Supported Agriculture (CSA). No excuses. Just action.
In addition, you find ways to incorporate exercise in the measly bit of time you have for yourself. You may squat while you brush your teeth or while doing the dishes. Or you will walk to the next subway stop or get off the bus a stop or two earlier. You may even park farther away from the store so you can get in some extra steps. Another way you may have used to get some exercise is by dead lifting the laundry bag, instead of asking your child to lift it for you. These are NET (no extra time) activities that a solo moms may do to practice her success habits.
These three habits are just a small part of the long list of success habits of the solo mom. After all, you are not a quitter. You always find ways to grow and contribute.